My family is the most important thing to me, besides my relationship with God. Are we perfect family? Riiight! That is why I have decided to set aside Fridays for the family on Notions from Nonny. If we have strong families, it will lead to a healthy society. I am no way a professional on this topic, but I can say I am a competent wife, mother, and grandmother, who strives to be the best that I can be and bring out the best in those around me. Therefore, I hope to help someone that may need a little encouragement with making your family stronger. I do realize what worked for me, may just not work for you. Glean from it what you will.
Children.....there will be a lot of posts on this topic. Raising three boys, four counting my husband, I can find PLENTY to talk about. Meet the boys.....
|The Killer B's: Bradley, Brent, & Brock--1998|
I just love this picture of my boys. They were so innocent. Full of laughter and mischief. My boys are almost exactly two years apart. We were young parents, who did their best. I always would say, "It will get easier when they get older!" Um, I hate to disappoint some of you! It does not get easier when they get older. There are trials at every stage. But I will leave that for another post.
We were very hands on parents. As my boys grew, they were not perfect, but we would get compliments when we were out in public. I knew we were doing something right. Some would ask, you have good boys, what do I have to do to get my children to behave? First recommendation to parents was, spend time with them! You say, I do spend time with them? No quality time, where you are interacting and they are not entertaining themselves. My husband and I very rarely left our boys with other people or let them go to other people's houses. We wanted them with us at all times. That was one way we can quickly nip behavior issues right away. If they are not with you, and are hanging out with friends, you can't diligently work with them. And friends and family will typically not discipline your children.
Being a parent is a full time job. When my boys were younger, I worked outside of the home some. Our pastor taught us, if you pay more than half of your income to daycare, then you need to stay home and raise your own children. I had to make that decision a few times. It was a blessing when I started teaching and had the hours that my children had. It made things very nice. But, once again, my boys were either with me or my husband when they weren't at school. This is really the key to raising your children.
Now my boys are grown and even have families of their own. I look back and think, what are some things I could do different. Believe me, there are plenty, but this is one area I would not change. I truly believe that a child left to his own devices will bring shame to their parents, but if you are daily leading and directing your child and nipping behavior problems right away. You child will bring you much joy and delight.
Have a Blessed Day!